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Visited David Hickman High School in Columbia MO yesterday

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It’s my 1st visit. Here is their wikipedia entry. I went there because I was taking my older daughter and her friend for the Missouri All State Band audition. Please don’t ask me the audition results.

A side note is I found out the Chick Fil A in Columbia MO was extremely busy at about 1:30 pm yesterday (Saturday). And I googled it and found it’s usually that busy on Saturday lunch hours.

For me the main job is to stay awake on the highway, as well as the morning fogs (this is partially due to the snowfall last Monday).

I also learned kewpie, both the doll and the Japanese mayo.

My memory sometimes is not perfect

But I think I am decent. I joke that sometimes I memorized quite a bit useless stuff, e.g., I remember things such as the first lesson in my 1st grade Chinese textbook, and so on.

But apparently, I forgot a few details that my wife remembers (but I forgot 🙂 during our 1st date.

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国粤双语

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国粤双语歌曲的例子

我是比较后知后觉的人。但是英文里有一个说法:better late than never. 我大概最早是今年上半年看到的Ayen何璟昕在2022年在中央台三套(CCTV3)表演的《追梦人》《天若有情》。你可以注意到她先是以国语的追梦人开始,中间插一段粤语的天若有情,最后又回到国语的追梦人。

后来发现Ayen在各主流视频平台上有不少国粤双语的歌。于是我最近 created 一个YT Playlist – Ayen何璟昕-国粤双语。An example 另外一个例子: also 人生何处不相逢 + 最真的梦 |国粤双语 Acoustic Cover (link is from YT Shorts). A longer version from Ayen via Bilibili is here. 人生何处不相逢原唱是陈慧娴(Bilibili 链接);最真的梦的原唱是周华健。

国语版和粤语版

Btw, 我是最近才知道不少歌是同时有国语版和粤语版的。A面&B面——国粤双语歌曲三十五首全纪录 – 日记 – 豆瓣.

再比如说“你是明日意义”这首歌是“漂洋过海来看你”的粤语版。这篇博文的密码是tomorrow, btw。Another example is this relatively new song 故事的最终粤语版:Cantonese lyricist is 心之洛 and the singer with acoustic guitar cover is Ayen何璟昕 (both links are YT). The mandarin version is sung by Zhang Bichen, 【新歌首發】張碧晨《在故事的最終》溫情上線(電影【哪吒之魔童鬧海】片尾曲)| CC字幕. I like both versions, but I liked the Cantonese versions’ words and singing slightly more 🙂

Actually, yesterday I noticed Ayen is not the only singer does this 国粤双语, Alan Tam 谭咏麟, one of the most famous singers from HK, sung this one at Hunan TV a few years ago – the original songs 突然想愛你 (mandarin) 留低鎖匙(Cantonese) were both originally sung by Valen Hsu or Xu Ru’yun 許茹芸. She is recently performing in the mainland, btw.

Also 执迷不悔 (Live) sung by the singer Sara Liu Xijun whom I also like quite a bit.

When I realized this, I tend to believe they are not the only 3 singers do 国粤双语. This way of singing probably existed before 2021 and 2022.

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Random thoughts on the holiday season

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One thing I liked about the holiday here is they sell See’s candies in stores. At normal time we can only buy them online or at Kansas City (more below). Macy’s at West County mall has them: the West County mall also has a popup store in the hallway of 1st floor – at the best spot in terms of foot traffic. I remember a few years ago we visited Kansas City during thanksgiving holiday and we stopped by the Nebraska Furniture Mart which is owned by Berkshire Hathaway (so is See’s Candies). I bought a few boxes of See’s candies there including the peanut brittle. We all liked it a lot. Personally I don’t buy much else on holidays – so does my wife. Kids like to buy a bit more than us – which I fully understand and support. The Christmas 🎅 here is equivalent to the lunar new year 🧧 when my wife and I grew up – we always get new clothes and 压岁钱🧧. It seems yesterday when our older daughter was crying (scared by the Santa) at a place like 图三。It was probably only 2 years ago when she asked me: dad, can we stop pretending all these Santa Clauses and elf all these nonsense for our younger daughter S6 (her little sis), because it’s getting harder and harder to make the 4th grader to believe? I said sure 👍. Just on the record, our older daughter S8 figured out herself that we are the real Santa when she was a 2nd grader [捂脸]. I guess my wife and I didn’t try harder enough and S8 is also very smart。

光阴似箭,我查了一下:陈慧娴原唱的港乐经典千千阕歌是我高中毕业去上大学那一年首发的;江珊原唱的梦里水乡是我大学毕业🎓的第二年发行的。今年陈慧娴60岁了- 可以退休了,陈姐,把机会尽量留给年轻人吧 – 当然如果你来北美巡演,说不定我就来给你捧场。江珊到年底就58岁了。我自己有时也在考虑我啥时候退休呢:我现在估计到60岁左右肯定是要退的[捂脸][呲牙]

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你是明日意义

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“你是明日意义”这首歌是“漂洋过海来看你”的粤语版。作曲是李宗盛,作词是陈少琪(Wikipedia)。歌词在这里。原唱是香港歌手黎姿(Wikipedia). “漂洋过海来看你”的作词也是李宗盛:下面有一段花絮。如果你只想听歌,scroll all the way to the bottom.

漂洋过海来看你

这首歌我估计我的同龄人绝大多数听过:当年应该是大街小巷都在放的歌。我看了一下KKBox,这首歌是1991发行的。原唱是台湾歌手娃娃 金智娟 (WaWa)

下面我从百度百科金智娟摘抄一点:

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1990年,金智娟与一位北京的舞蹈老师一见钟情,当时台湾到北京还没有直航,因此为了看他,金智娟从台湾辗转飞到香港再到北京,每当朋友问金智娟北京的样貌时她都说不知道,因为她每次去北京都只去她男朋友的卧室。李宗盛在听到金智娟的这段故事后,便决定开始创作这首歌。当时李宗盛在吃牛肉面,桌上垫了张餐巾纸,翻过来便开始创作歌词,花费了15分钟便创作好了歌词部分。

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百度百科李宗盛 上有类似的故事。我今天才发现同样一首歌,不同的歌手有不同的百度百科网页。

我的读者们:你有没有“漂洋过海来看你(去看她/他)“的经历呢?😂

我就有。比如说 – 这里是故事的英文版2007年三月初这一次美联航芝加哥途经北京到上海;中文版在这里。途经北京的原因是因为那天圣村下大雪,飞机航班延误,我到了芝加哥从芝加哥飞上海的航班已经起飞。我就恳求机场和飞北京航班的工作人员让我在北京转一次,芝加哥直飞北京,再坐国航航班到上海虹桥机场。国航和美联航是合作伙伴。我应该告诉她们我是到上海 see my girl friend (who is my wife now). 她们最后开了恩:重新打开机舱,放我进去。

我刚才还注意到一个比较碰巧的事情(coincident ):那就是我们的大女儿是这一篇07年3月博客的整三年后出生。

油管:娃娃(金智娟) WaWa【飄洋過海來看你】Official Music Video劉明湘 Rose Liu 版本

苹果音乐 (潘越雲& 彭佳慧)

Spotify (Rose Liu)

有点意思的是,我印象中,刘明湘大概是美籍华人里面,唯一有点名气的华语歌手了。最近我突然注意到马拉西亚华人里面有不少好的华语歌手,包括写歌谱曲很厉害的人:比如说戴佩妮光良梁静茹李幸倪。感觉中文的文化传承方面,在美国的华人可以好好学学马拉西亚华人。

你是明日意义

我感觉这是一首比较小众的歌,但是同时我个人感觉很好听。我最早是听Ayen何璟昕翻唱的。我在国内淘宝网上让朋友买了她的翻唱U盘: it works on my Toyota Camry 2020, and I can listen to it via my iPod Nano I bought in Nov 2012, and this swimming headset

我记得在我读大学的时候黎姿至少是小有名气的。好像是她后来有不少变故,没有继续唱歌。I did notice on her Wikipedia page, she had a rough time growing up.

黎姿-Wikipedia page-感情生活

It appears to me 感情生活 section is a bit long? 😭

This is very unfortunate. Ideally we don’t want overly complicated love life, I am saying it from my personal experience and observations. And as a dad.

如果是更有名的歌手比如说林忆莲来原唱这一首歌,这首歌会不会更火一些呢?I don’t know.

我后来又想了一下:一般来说国粤双语的歌会有一首更流行。漂洋过海来看你应该是先发行的,一般来说先发行的话有先入为主,或英文叫first mover advantage. 第二个原因是国语版词作者李宗盛比粤语版词作者陈少琪更有名。一个类似的例子是齐秦的外面的世界和黄凯芹唱的粤语版青葱岁月(我也是今年才听到)。

但是我知道有粤语版跟国语版都很流行的例子,比如说王菲 – 愛與痛的邊緣 (有多少愛可以重來 粵語版) Acoustic cover|粵語歌吉他彈唱|Ayen何璟昕, 王菲 Faye Wong 愛與痛的邊緣, 和迪克牛仔 – 有多少愛可以重來 (Official Video)。(Update 12-9-2025) 洋澜一 ~ 有多少爱可以重来 2023 08 16 (she sang the mandarin version 1st, then followed by the cantonese version)

Also 人生何处不相逢 + 最真的梦 |国粤双语 Acoustic Cover (link is from YT Shorts). A longer version from Ayen via Bilibili is here. 人生何处不相逢原唱是陈慧娴(Bilibili 链接);最真的梦的原唱是周华健。

还有,在今年之前总的来说我粤语歌听的比较少,因为粤语对我来说基本上是外语。大概半年多前我开始在多邻果上学粤语,我估计我现在粤语可以听懂25%左右。一个有点好玩的事:最近我听陈慧娴原唱的跳舞街,旋律有点耳熟,但是我听不出歌词和歌名。我问了Shazam(这边可以猜歌名的App), Shazam也不行,但是谷歌(Google) app 帮我认出来了。

我在苹果音乐没有找到黎姿唱的“你是明日意义“的版本。我只看到一个叫粤语小林哥男生版:我个人还是比较喜欢女生版。Sorry 小林哥,no offense 😂

但是油管上有黎姿唱的版本哔哩哔哩上有据说是从油管搬运过来的视频

我刚才突然想到,这歌如果学会了可以唱给我的孩子们听(this is a BIG IF though)。我知道一是我不会唱,她们现在听粤语应该是不可能的。但是语言这东西,越小的时候学,就越容易。前几天跟我读高二的大女儿在车上聊,她说读写方面,她的西班牙语已强于汉语。现在她的汉语听说比西班牙语还是好一点。有时候在商店里她会故意跟我讲汉语而不是英语,这样一般人就听不懂我们的话😂

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Chicken soup for hump day

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Every school should have this.

The Boy and the Glass of Milk – A True Story of Kindness Coming Full Circle:

Many years ago, a poor boy went from door to door selling small goods to pay his school fees. One day, he was so hungry and broke that he decided to ask for some food at the next house.
But when a kind young woman opened the door, his courage failed. Instead of asking for food, he quietly said,
“Could I please have a glass of water?”
The woman looked at him and saw the tired, hungry boy. Instead of water, she brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, savoring every sip.
When he finished, he asked softly,
“How much do I owe you, ma’am?”
She smiled and said,
“You don’t owe me anything. My mother taught me never to ask for payment for kindness.”
The boy thanked her from the bottom of his heart and left that house feeling stronger—not just in body, but in spirit.
Years passed. The woman became seriously ill. Local doctors couldn’t help, and she was sent to a big city hospital. A specialist was called in to examine her. When he heard the name of the town she was from, something flickered in his eyes.
He went to her room, recognized her instantly, and from that day gave her the best care possible.
After weeks of treatment, she was finally cured. When the bill arrived, she feared it would take the rest of her life to pay. But when she opened the envelope, she found this note written across the bill:
🩵 “Paid in full—with one glass of milk.”
— Dr. Howard Kelly
That day she learned — goodness never goes unrewarded.
Kindness travels in circles, and it always finds its way back—sometimes when we need it most.

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An interesting story and dads’ feelings

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When their daughter(s) finds someone she loves. I think the right word probably is “mixed emotions”. No, I am not implying anything and our older daughter who is 15 and hasn’t dating someone yet – good to me for now :-).

I also have a friend who strictly forbids her daughters dating even in college. She told me about this rule; they are from India btw. My view is less strict: personally, I feel it’s okay to date in college because I did, and it didn’t turn out to be a disaster (I was lucky in many ways I think :-). But date in the high school is probably too early. This is also considering their schoolwork in the HS, which is a lot in my opinion.

A bit over 10 years ago, before our younger daughter was born some of my colleagues did a baby shower, one of my American colleagues commented: you need to watch out all the guys now you are having a daughter 🙂

In July 26 this summer, I happened to be a similar boat like this. I was going to drop off the girl who is from China (she is 16 years old), and attended the summer camp here at WUSTL, to the STL airport. The time was a bit tight for me, because after dropping her off, I need to come home and drive my older daughter to the Community Music School in Webster University at Webster Groves. So, I arrived at the girl’s place early so that I could have some breath room just in case. I told them about my plan. But the girl would not come out at 8 am, and I was a bit upset, because it could take 15 to 20 minutes to drive from WUSTL to the STL, and I also need to go inside the airport to make sure her can check in luggage and get boarding pass and so on. So, I said in the WeChat group chat to hurry up. And after probably 15 or 20 minutes, the girl came out, with a boy and it’s quite obvious the boy is her (likely new) boyfriend. Then I felt pretty bad.

And also, I was thinking what would I feel if I saw my older daughter in this kind of situation? Keep in mind I never saw that girl before, and I had to guess whenever someone comes out from that building. But her dress reminds me of my daughter. Btw, I talked about the teen girls dress trend here, from my observations, scroll to “What to wear for girl nowdays???“.

Anyway, I did have a small opportunity to make up my dumb (and being rude) mistake. The girl’s luggage is over the weight limit by 6 pounds, and I paid the $100 luggage fees right away. I was not late for my older daughter’s thing either: here is some of the percussion that the students at CMS did in the past school year (YT) including the summer. Can you guess which one is my older daughter? Hint: she was in the way back and she didn’t have a lot of time on the screen.

PS: you may like my other post here Dad daughter moments. As you may be able to predict or perceive, not all moments are happy or light moments though – something I didn’t anticipate or intentionally ignoring before we have our kids. Some moments are quite hard or difficult, honestly speaking.

PS2 (10-24-2025): I wrote more re: “Father’s love, or elder generations love towards the kids” here.

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Exercises, music, work and sleep

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I talked about my recent exercise trend here. But I think I need to focus on my sleep a bit more, as in recent years, due to various reasons, I didn’t get the necessary sleep and that is taking a toll on my health.

As I reflect back, in addition to aging, work at MC is one culprit of my deteriorating sleeping quality. I talked about my on call experience of that employer (in Chinese) here.

Fortunately both my last job and my current job are less demanding, and less stressful. But I am getting older too 🙁

Recently I started to listen to music during sleep. That alone may not be the best solution for “not being able to fall into asleep”. But I am fine tune it, as well as adjusting so that I don’t listen to my iPod Nano (I talked about it here and here), or a new MP3 player I bought the whole time.

Also, back to exercise, I think in addition to swim or walking, I am going to focus a bit more on meditation, such as breath on Apple Watch or Yoga via YT (see my YT Yoga playlist).

PS:

I got to see my uncle (my mom’s little big brother, who is 89 years old) this summer. He commented on the sleep problem we have. He said, not exact words, but why we are worrying about things in the night? His point was we probably had too much stress from our day job (which is probably true). Back to the time when he was young, he probably doesn’t have the material things we have now, but he is much happier. Probably one reason he lives to 89 🙂

(Update 10-17-2025) I just came across this at FB “What is Success? Success is being able to go to bed each night with your Mind at Peace.”

PS 2:

To my fellow HS students’ parents especially parents of student athletes: now we have this AI thing – let AI do the work and let our kids and all of us have some more sleep 😴 (not my words, coach and my uncle’s words – they are wiser than me. Okay I added this AI thing for dramatic effect [捂脸]). Btw, tonight is the blue and white night at #LHWHS and if you have time (no impacting on your or your kids sleep schedule): the girls powder puff flag football game is fun to watch. #homecoming #powderPuff

PS 3:

年近退休睡觉不爽, 有招了

I did one thing similar: something I mostly figured out my own, with some inputs from friend(s). I listened to Cantonese music (slow music, more like lullabies). Do you want to guess which musicians (singers) I listened to most often? Btw, I mostly use my 13-year-old iPod Nano (as shown here). Because it doesn’t have the fancy stuff on my iPhone and won’t pull me into the blackhole of “doom scrolling”.

I think in theory at least, a podcast or a book would do the similar trick. I mostly just listened to one song non-stop (loop) – a side benefit is it saves the battery of iPod Nano.

(Update 12-9-2025) Your Body Ages Rapidly In Your 40s And 60s. Doctors Say These Habits Will Help Slow It Down (Women’s Health via Yahoo.com)

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Swim

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Yesterday (9/14 Sunday, I started writing this blog on 9/15 Monday) was the last day for the outdoor pool at the J Creve Coeur, for this year.

This summer is likely the most I swam in a summer in an outdoor setting.

Growing up I didn’t know how to swim. The main reason is my parents were very much scared that we would drown in the water reservoir which is one or two miles away. The story was two young guys who are probably in their early 20s, went to swimming after a hot working day in the summer, and both of them drowned and died. I am guessing they were probably my dad’s age or slightly younger. I have 2 elder brothers, we played in the water sometimes, but not at the big water reservoir. We played at the brooks in front of our house, and also a small pond in which we can stand without swimming. Only one of my brothers, my little big brother (who is 2 years older than me), learned or taught himself how to swim.

I first learned to swim myself after college, mostly at swimming pools, when I was working in Shanghai. I did learned a few things from other people, here and there. But the most important part is I practice myself, either in the swimming pool, or when I get a chance, in the water park. But my swimming skills were not that great, and my stamina for swimming is not that great either. That lasted for long time, until this summer, as I decided to swim more or longer distances. I think in the past, I usually swim probably 6 laps or 300 yards at the J indoor lap pool. This year, I set my goal higher, and I usually swim 600 yards. I also swam more at the outdoor pool when possible. Keep in mind I talked about the J or JCC here and there, and as you may be able to tell I am a fan of the J.

Also, note I paused swimming for quite a while before this summer. But now I am back.

This summer, at the J outdoor pool, once a boy asked me how to swim. He probably thought that I am a good or a decent swimmer because I was doing lap swimming. I never expected that but it’s definitely made my day as I like to share my knowledge with other people, especially younger folks. I think the boy is 11 years old, just like my younger daughter. Both my girls know how to swim, but they are not big fans of swimming as their dad 🙂

Now I am back to the indoor swimming, and I hope to stick to it until next summer.

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Some resources to learn Cantonese

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I talked about “learning Cantonese” a while ago, in my earlier blog post. There is probably another reason that led me to learn Cantonese and I am not going to disclose for now. But I promise it’s a good reason or motivation factor for me. Hint: this is along the lines of the point 2 I laid out in my earlier blog post 🙂

Back to the learning resources.

First, Duolingo, which I have used for about 180 days now. Duolingo itself is free but you can pay for advanced features. It’s a good way to get feet wet.

Recently I bought a course (mini-program, or 小程序)on WeChat, I learned a tiny bit of Pin’yin so far. I am attaching the screen shots below.

识某文微信小程序

Then I came across this one 粵語網路課堂. This is a self paced online learning course created by 香港中文大學自學中心 the Chinese University at Hong Kong (website, Wikipedia). I haven’t started on this one yet: my expectation is the content here will be good, but in terms of delivery or interactions, the mini-program, or 小程序 above may work better for many people (a bit like Duolingo, mini-program will be more engaging).

Last but not least, this one from Qing’ting FM 📻 app, my old friend.

Note you don’t have to pay to become a member if you don’t need to go back and listen to old podcasts.

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Fun Life Software development

Production release, perform and high stake exams

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I did a production release last week, by that I mean I was the release tech lead for the web app production releases for my current employer. It’s mostly uneventful, but like most other production releases, there is usually some learning opportunities. This time the opportunities lies in couple small areas: 1) Validation of database insert statements, make sure the spelling of the select statement is exact; 2) Staging the artifact for production, via GitHub action. I was a bit new to both “staging artifact” and GitHub Action, this time I learned on the spot, with help from a colleague.

Friendly crowd

This reminds me of another thing, that is for artist, for example a musician or a singer to perform. There is pressure on live performance too. Similar to production deployment, if we have a friendly crowd (customers in the case of websites) and a collaborative team, things will be a bit easier.

Saturday night all-nighter

Some more tips on production deployment. I did do a few at my current job, and I did some at Mastercard (MC), my previous employer. The deployment was usually more stressful at MC. The main problem there is the production release usually happens on Saturday night, and it could be an all-nighter because the expectation is there, also it’s not easy to find all the right people quickly during the night. I recall once, I had to page my colleague, and he came on quickly, but we waited hours for the person to generate a new key (the old key expired, and the server would not start during restart). So basically, I could not completely go to bed, I laid down in the couch with headphone on, and I imagine my colleague did the same. Btw, the reason I asked help from my colleague was it’s the first time I encountered something like this (he has much more experience).

Lesson learned

At my current place, I did almost make a big mistake last year during production deployment. The issue was the UNIX engineer didn’t fully understand my instruction. Although one can argue my instruction was not very clear. But the end results was the engineer deleted much more arguments in the J2EE server configuration and the server would not start because of that. Luckily earlier I took my PM (project manager) colleague’s advice, and did a backup or save of the “before” arguments. So at least we have some references for the arguments as the UNIX engineer already deleted a bunch. Also the engineer called his senior engineer and he was able to bail out both of us. From that small incident I learned “don’t assume other people will always understand or follow the instructions”. Try to write good instructions, and also back up things as needed. Talking about backups, I usually do some DB backups when I delete something. That saved me once as I was trying to fix an issue at Mastercard. Basically when I realized my earlier fix didn’t work, I restore the data from my backup, and tried another approach. The second time it worked.

Performance

Back to artistic performance. I haven’t performed or competed for a long time. But I can see my older daughter got nervous before this sort of thing. And for my younger daughter: she tries to avoid those sorts of things, as much as practical, from junior tennis tournament to violin federation(performance) at UMSL, to string/music ensembles at Community Music School at Webster University. I can understand though. Because as I said in my other posts, I got nervous before Gaokao and other important exams too. The trick is, balance the nervousness with other important things such as preparing for the exam or the performances.

Btw, if you are in Yueyang, Hunan and surrounding areas, please note this – (Update 07-24-2025, from 何璟昕的微博) 听民谣,来岳阳🎶 我会参加7月25号、26号的湖畔音乐节演出,地点在岳阳港工业遗址公园,这次准备了3~4首从来没有在现场演出过的新歌曲,欢迎大家来玩!